Keith Orie describes how to keep naysayers from stealing your peace of mind
from David | December 22, 2020
We’ve all encountered naysayers. People who criticize, doubt you, and prostrate yourself among ordinary people and you can’t make them go away. However, there are steps you can take to protect your courage, motivation, and willpower, and to fight their negativity. In this article, Keith Orie, a certified professional life coach in Temple, TX, describes how to keep your precious peace of mind and excitement against cynics who threaten to take it away.
Avoid indulging in their reality
Toxic people and naysayers tend to see themselves as victims in any situation. Regardless of your or her actions, they are likely to change the situation to shift the blame on someone else or to reinterpret history to favor their personal agenda. It’s an endless cycle.
If naysayers use this tactic, you don’t play along. You might feel prompted to nod and smile to save face, but this actually encourages these people to continue their behavior. Instead, try to respectfully disagree. While this might upset the person, it might prevent them from including you in the future. Naysayers hate people who disagree and will likely leave you alone.
Put yourself first
At the end of the day, you will know what is best for you. Criticism and defeat are the only strategy for feeling valuable. They try to bring you to their level; don’t let them do it.
Healthy relationships involve give and take. Your wants and needs can only be met by those who are willing to recognize your limits and belief systems. If you give your energy naysay, you are getting nothing in return. This depletes your precious emotional energy and makes you less able to identify your own needs and take action to meet them.
Offer compassion, not support
Toxic people can change their behavior. But it has to come from within. Unfortunately, you can’t fix a naysayer as often as you like. You have to be willing to work for a more successful and peaceful life.
Naysayers come in all forms. Maybe your parents, family members, or other important people in your life are toxic and you don’t want to cut them out completely. In this case, it’s okay to offer the compassion and kindness that they cannot offer you. Suggest they get help elsewhere. Offering support consumes your emotional resources, but offering compassion does not. And at the end of the day, you can always just walk away when they are not even able to receive your kindness.
Naysayers are out to steal your peace of mind because they can’t find it within themselves. By letting these toxic people affect your life, your emotional energy and resources will be depleted, leaving you less able to maintain peace in your own life. By avoiding indulging in their distorted reality, putting yourself first, and offering compassion instead of help, you can keep your peace of mind and surround yourself with people who uplift you instead of draining you.
About Keith Orie
Keith Orie is a Certified Professional Life Coach based in Temple, Texas and the owner of Advanced Medical Sales, LLC. He started the company late in college to help medical professionals treat patients effectively through non-invasive pain relief procedures. Mr. Orie understands the value of customer support and has built a team of resourceful professionals to ensure that all customer inquiries are answered responsibly and quickly. The extensive line of medical devices that Mr. Orie sells includes portable ultrasound devices, electrical stimulation devices, neck traction devices and more.